This week I was going through people’s Whatsapp status updates then one update really got me thinking. It was my classmate’s, and it read, “I wish all my friends good life and success. Otherwise, how will our kids get connections later in life? Be happy when your colleagues do well.”
That post brought me into self talk and meditation of my values and what i really think of my colleagues; both on and off campus. Somewhat, it hauled my thought back to high school life and what that life had to offer. Back then, it was so good when one came on top of the class, or topped in a certain subject. Hearing one’s name mentioned in the dean’s list when exam results were being released really boosted one’s ego and self image among their peers. In a way, coming first in class gave one bragging rights and bestowed upon them the title “Invincible”. Back then, one could go any way to see them register good marks and grades. That included getting your competitor veer off the focus road as you filled knowledge banks. One’s success somehow brought some feeling of jealous and envy among their competitors.
However, upon joining varsity, somebody told me that that marked the end of academic competition and the start of building on one’s skills, and making good connections, for the here and now; as well as for posterity. That is my point, comrades. You see, you almost certainly need your college mates, especially your classmates in future, if not now. Now that you are in college or on campus, seek to help your colleagues in any noble way and cause possible. Campus is not a place where you can afford to choose your friends on the basis of their class or performance. One could be lacking something outwardly but so rich inside. That roommate that you shun could be seeing an opportunity that fits you, but since you are not even talking to them, or because you despise them blatantly, they also resort to keep quiet about it. The classmate that you ignore and even snub and snob could be having a super connection that could catapult you to where your mind can’t reach as at now.
Learn to talk to people. Be good to your classmates. Be interested in your friends. You never know where an opportunity could be lying in wait, for a knock. Even the little act of helping your friend with a notebook, notes or even a pen could play a vital role in shaping your career path. We almost all tend to remember those who have been good to us, and should we be blest in any w
ay, they are among the first people we remember.
And, do not limit your circle of friends to your fellow students only. Be good to your lecturers. As a matter of fact, we have good and friendly lecturers who can spare time to chat with you, on sensible matters. Greet them when you find them in the corridors and on the stairs- wherever the place. I was listening to an interview on radio and the interviewee was saying that it was his lecturer who advised him to try out a certain writing competition. Upon trying, the guy emerged on the top. With that came a job. A job which he could not have got that easily was it not for his good rapport with his lecturer.
Even if these relationships may not work out for you now or for you, they could help your relative in future. Your younger sibling could be a beneficiary of your friendship dating back to campus. Seek to be in good books with your lecturers and classmates, and schoolmates in general. That friendship that you despise now could ‘move mountains’. Stay positive and nice to people. All people.